Weekly Wonders #52-My Style


image from Roots of Style by Isabel Toledo

Let’s talk about style. As a fashion blogger I get the question occasionally of  “how do you describe your style?”

I have to admit that before this was my “job”–I never even thought about the term as it related to me. Sure, I loved to shop and put together outfits, but I never tried to analyze what I wore and why.  So I have to think there are a ton of other ladies out there that are the same way. You figure out what you’re going to wear for the day, you put it on, and you periodically go shopping to add or replace items. And when you go shopping you gravitate towards similar elements that you already own—it’s what you like. Thus it’s your “style.”

My theory lately is your “style” is not always necessarily what I have outlined above. What I described is more a habit or comfort. Have you ever bought something at the store, only to come home and find you already have one very much like it? That’s because you liked it the first time, so of course you are attracted to it again. Really though, your style ought to be your personality. In fact, Suzanne Carillo dedicated an entire post to it here, with a worksheet to help-here.

So it comes down to how do you describe yourself? Like I say in my blog description, how we dress echoes our visual voice!

One of the many things I’ve learned in these last couple of years is that I don’t want to be bound to one certain type. I already did that in my earlier career. Dentistry was a serious business. I had patients to take care of and employees that depended on me. So I feel like I dressed seriously—although, I’m not sure there’s a category for that in the style department. It’s only since I’ve retired that I feel like I can spread my wings and try wearing items I would never have worn before. So does that mean my style has changed or am I being more adventuresome?

Trust me, it’s fun and very liberating to experiment with different items that maybe you would never think of purchasing!! I would invite you all to try it. Next time you’re out shopping, at least try on one thing you normally wouldn’t. And take an unbiased friend because your brain may not observe it the way others do!

So how would I describe my style? Varied. Colorful. With a touch of this, that and the other!!

Do you think my theory is wacky? What is style to you? This week the three of us will be wearing leather skirts (crazy, I know)!

Linking with Shoe and Tell, Sophisticated Style, Brilliant Blog Posts, Over the MoonAll About You, Awesome Link up & Classy Monday


  • Leather skirts? You go, ladies! I agree with your new definition of style; why limit yourself? And that is coming from experience! This is the lady who commented to her daughter, “I feel like I look the same all the time.” I then opened the box of clothing I just ordered, and pulled out 4 of the exact same shirt in different colors. She looked at me and said, “Ya think?” Duh…

    • Jodie Filogomo

      It’s a common occurrence Wendy—now you just need to buy stuff you normally wouldn’t have!!! Thanks for your input!!

  • I have read a lot about people using their closets to determine their interior design aesthetic. For me it is the opposite. I see my walls and large pieces as base layers and my throws and paintings as accessories. This helps me shop for clothes.

    • Jodie Filogomo

      Such an interesting way to think about this. If I was going for comedy—you could interpret this as wearing bedspreads for dresses and lampshades as hats!! But in reality, what you are saying is the clothing you pick out is something that resonates with your home decor?

  • I think you are correct…why pigeonhole yourself. I love varied and colorful and comfortable!

  • Romanescu Laura Sinziana

    Great thought Jodie! The idea of trying something you usually don’t is great! I will remind it next time I go shopping!

    • Jodie Filogomo

      It’s a fun exercise!! Even if you don’t end up buying any of it!

  • Excellent thoughts, Jodie! I recently wrote a post about how to define one’s personal style, and it’s become the most popular post on my blog! There are so many women out there struggling with this concept, yet they realize that the clothes they purchase out of habit aren’t necessarily indicative of their overall style. When I speak on this topic again, I’d love to be able to include your post! As for me, I describe my personal style as classically feminine with a slight modern edge. But like you, I hate to confine myself to one or two categories.

    – Liz @ Downtown Demure

    • Jodie Filogomo

      Such an insightful comment, Liz! I bet there is a ton of psychological topics that could be applied to women who have trouble with their style—body issues, time management, etc…
      I’m certainly glad I’ve been trying new and different clothing items with the help of reading many blogs—it’s really quite fun!
      And, of course, I’d be ecstatic if you ever included any of my posts in yours!

  • Terri Webster Schrandt

    Your theory is right on, Jodie! It is easier when we get older to just not care. I’ve been sporty-casual all my life, I live in Title 9 and Athleta clothing. But I dress nicely when I teach, looking like a schlepp never helped anyone learn. And I do have two leather skirts. Just need to shed a few more pounds.

    • Jodie Filogomo

      FYI Terri-once when I had a skirt I loved and it was too tight, my mom sewed a strip of material down both side seams to make it fit! I just recently did that with a pair of pants (I did it on the inside seams)—no sense waiting to wear what I love (is my motto)!!

  • SheelaGoh

    OMG Jodie, leather skirts!!! Woohoo!!! See this is why I’ve become a recent aficionado of your blog and outfit posts #fangirling I can’t wait to see what the three of you lovely ladies come up with 🙂 and it would mean a lot to me if you’d join my first ever link-up as well. I believe the reason behind its creation would resonate well with you too xo


    • SheelaGoh

      I forgot. The style bit. Suzanne recently posted something about this, asking us to select three words to describe our personal style. I could only think of one word to describe mine, and that was “unapologetic”. I love mixing everything from high street to couture to vintage to repurposed. It just makes dressing-up so much more fun, playful and unexpected xoxo

    • Jodie Filogomo

      That’s a first rate description of your style Sheela! I think we can all aspire to be more like you—it makes getting dressed so much more fun!!

  • Leather skirts? Nothing Crazy there….Fabulous? Yes!
    Style to me is all about individuality, fun, comfort (emotional comfort, sometimes physical discomfort is allowed for the sake of great shoes!) and confidence.
    You know I am all for trying something new!

    • Jodie Filogomo

      Yes Samantha, you are definitely one for trying something new and I think everyone should have a friend like you in their group! Someone who pushes the limits and thinks quite differently than yourself (to either extreme)! Love ya girl!!

  • Lorena Lorena

    I plead guilty to going home with something almost identical to what I already own.
    I make efforts to sometimes purchase or try on garments that are NOTHING like me – and sometimes I am pleasantly surprised at how it looks. In my case, style is evolving or even involving when I try vintage.

    • Jodie Filogomo

      I love that phrase….style is involving!!
      Isn’t it quite fun to find something you would’ve never thought to try in the past?
      Like Suzanne said, vintage can be wonderfully enlightening. And i totally agree!
      Thanks for such great comments!!

  • Oooh! Leather skirts! One of my favourites!

    Thanks for the shout-out : )

    Of course I think your theory is dead on. I also agree that we can often get into a style rut. Dressing should invigorate us and not be just another chore we need to fulfill during our day.

    I think that shopping vintage and thrift has really made me stretch my style imagination and kept my style from becoming boring.


    • Jodie Filogomo

      Wow…you beat me to it…I was going to tell you I was including you in my post (gosh, I probably should’ve asked first…sorry)!
      I think that’s a good point about shopping thrift and vintage, because then you’re not dressubg like everyone else. If you only go shopping at the popular stores—then you tend to look similar to all the others who shop there!