How and Why It’s Important to Support Your Friends
Quote of the day: ” Anything is possible when you have the right people there to support you.” Misty Copeland
I actually don’t think it’s a question of why it’s important to support your friends. Most of us do this for those around us who we love and treasure. But how we can support our friends is not always obvious.
What if you didn’t realize that one or two things could really mean the world to the people in our life? What if you were kinda doing it wrong all along?
I laugh that I’m a slow learner about some things. I always feel like if I like something a certain way, so should everyone else. But that’s not the case. And since we don’t have those “etiquette” rules to go by anymore, I wanted to share a couple of ideas.
Many of these ideas are a good reminder to me. Because I think we can all improve.
In real life, we get together and talk with our friends. But many times I find that some people are more fun to be around than others. Have you ever wondered why?
Listening is a huge part of that for me. As a dentist, it was important to listen and try to figure out the issue for people. And hopefully, I still do that with friends.
Because I’m sure most of us have heard the saying “The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.”
I shared an article years ago about how when someone was going through a hard time in her life, many friends wanted to tell their story to “help” her. And that’s not what she needed. Maybe we’ve learned that sharing the same kind of loss or time in our life is how we should respond.
Yet most of the time, people just want to be heard. Or listened to. Maybe a hug. It’s not a competition about who hurts the most or anything like that.
If you’ve ever owned your own business, then you know the work, stress and struggles that go into such a labor of love. It’s not easy in any way, shape or form. Yet if you’ve never gone through it, maybe you just don’t realize.
That being said, most businesses depend on sales. Sure, you’ve attended a jewelry or makeup party because your friend is having one. And while that helps for the day, it’s good to also ask them, how you can help out for the long run.
There are SO many individuals with their own companies right now. And I consider that a good thing. Heck, even someone’s blog is a “business” if you get right down to it.
Our local places are what keep our communities active and engaged. Like my local boutique that I’ve blogged about in the past. They’ve changed their name due to some shifts, but are also selling online. And while we all still adore Target and the other big named places, let’s not forget the small businesses too.
That’s why I especially love working with the smaller companies on my blog. Sure, maybe you can get a better deal at the dollar store, but most of the time it’s worth the splurge.
I think we all need to hear that we are valued and appreciated. Whether that’s our partners, friends, or even a business.
I can’t tell you how wonderful it was to hear from many of you after my very hard to write post about feminine dryness. Many of you emailed me privately to talk about it, and to me that’s better than a pair of new shoes (and if you know me, that’s saying a lot).
Making a difference in people’s lives is truly something I love. And I know many others feel the same way.
What it boils down to in the blogging world, is what a young blogger said in her post I shared on Instagram awhile back. While I’m retired, and do this journey because I love it, each and every blogger NEEDS your support and feedback.
That’s why I add the links in for my other social media sites below in every post. While you may not love some of these other social sites, the people in marketing who decide who to work with, do look at these numbers and the engagement/comments. I’m sure this is partly why I didn’t get chosen for the Sephora gig.
It’s also why I truly appreciate any one who bothers to take the time to comment on any of my posts whether it’s on Facebook, You-Tube or Instagram. And why I ALWAYS try to respond back. If I don’t respond, it’s only because I somehow missed it.
Why did I write this today? Funny thing is I was reading one of the blogs I like to read, and happened to click on her Pinterest link. And I was shocked to realize that I didn’t follow her. Now you may not think that’s anything to be concerned about, but I want to be a friend that supports others. And then I wondered if other people might want to help too.
There are many posts I’ve read by others that give suggestions on how we can help other bloggers. And while I don’t expect you to have read them all, I didn’t want to just say the same things everyone else has said.
So let me just stop here and thank you each and every one of you for reading this. For your support, for you comments that make me laugh or think, and for your suggestions and ideas. For listening to me, for purchasing from the companies that take the risk of working with us, and especially for any kind of feedback.
Maybe you’ve never even wondered about half of this stuff. But if you do want to support any of your friends even more, ask them how you can help. Seriously, just the fact that you took the time to inquire will mean more than anything to them.
Pinterest is a powerful way for others to get inspiration and discover new blogs. I’d be so honored if you share my images on your boards.
Walking Cradles Virtual Party
It’s the Shoe Stravaganza time at Walking Cradles. Why should you join the event? Because there will be show specials throughout the evening along with free shipping and possibly other surprises.
Just join Walking Cradles on their Facebook live (it’ll be on their Facebook page) this Thursday, April 11, 2019 at 6 pm central time for a fun virtual party.
Join me for More of the Fun
While many of us don’t want more junk in our email, I hope my emails are an added benefit. One way I try to do this is to have a monthly giveaway for email subscribers only and add a sentence or two about my personal life on the days an email goes out. Just add your email to the green box that says email below.