What to Wear to a Funeral

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Funeral Outfits for All Ages

Quote of the day: “It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.” J.K. Rowling

I picked this quote because I think at the age we are at now, we probably realize that life is too short. It’s too short for many insignificant things, including forgetting to live. I’m sure this can mean a lot of different things to many different people. But to me, one of the things this means, is trying to enjoy every day! Concentrate on the positive, not the negative!

We are teaming up with Cathy from My Side of 50 to show some ideas for what we wear to funerals. This may be considered a somber event for most of us. But, I also wrote a post on why I like funerals earlier this week! And Cathy joined in with a post showing a checklist on practical ways to help when someone dies.

And since this event is something most of us will need to attend at some point in our lives, we might as well be ready for it. In fact, I was just visiting a friend in Phoenix, who takes a “funeral outfit” with her when they go on their extended trips—just in case!

And not to be flippant—but one of the most important things to wear to this event is waterproof mascara. Even when I’ve been at funerals where I didn’t know the deceased that well, it’s inevitable that there will be tears. As for the clothing, I know most of us will choose a black dress or black outfit, but I do think that other colors can be just as appropriate! You tell me, what do you wear?

Cathy (My Side of 50): I don’t want to spoil the surprise of what all Cathy is wearing so I’m only showing the top half here! You should visit her site to get all of the details. But I love that she wore a white, crochet jacket that she had bought for a cruise last summer. And it’s funny how she tells the story how she ended up “shopping her closet” for this outfit. I do think that many times we “forget” what we have in that wardrobe of ours!

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Jodie’s (50’s) Outfit: I was the last of the 3 of us to have my photos taken for this post, so I chose my navy dress, in order to give some variety to the mix.

My dress is a sweater dress from Charming Charlies, and taking these photos, made me realize that I should wear a full slip under it, maybe like this one here! I think I’ve worn it in the past with a jacket or cardigan over it, but I never realized how you can sometimes see through it.

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As much as I want to be respectful for the family of the deceased, I also feel strange wearing all black because that’s not me.

That’s why I chose this necklace because it seemed to add a little bit of life to the look. However, my husband wondered if it was too colorful or ornate for a funeral? In my opinion it seems fine, but I’m interested to see what you think!

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I wanted to wear flats for this look because I know there are times, when you will also visit the cemetery after the service, and it’s not always easy to walk on the grass in heels!

As many funerals as I’ve been to, I still can’t remember if I know ahead of time, if we’ll be going out to the cemetery. I suppose I could be smart enough to just bring a change of shoes with me to this event. Then I could wear my heels, yet have flats in the car, just in case. I’m glad we had this discussion, so now maybe I’ll think of this the next time!

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Dress: Charming Charlies (similar here)~~Shoes: Qupid (similar here with stripes or here in all white)~~Necklace: (similar here)~~Earrings: (similar here)

Nancy’s (60’s) Outfit: Nancy had just recently attended a funeral, so we had her put on what she had worn to the event. I was glad to see that she chose her grey outfit instead of something black.

Although,I realize that you are not looking to stand out at this kind of service, I thought this combination of colors was nice. I consider it subdued enough to look respectful. What do you think?

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She kept her shoes in the same neutral color of grey.

In these photos, the shoes look like a different grey than the skirt & jacket, but I can tell you in person, they looked much closer to each other.

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The accessories she wore were small & understated with just a small chain for her necklace and button earrings for her ears.

I know I never really leave the house without some accessories adorning my body. But I could see how some people might feel that a funeral service is not meant for bling and extras. How do you feel about accessories at a funeral? Are they okay or too much?

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Nancy had chosen this top to wear under the “suit” to lighten it up a little.

I thought the necklines of both were very complimentary since they follow the same lines. In fact, this shirt has been in Nancy’s closet for a long time, yet the cross front blouses are quite in style these days. As my mother always says, “styles come back around!”

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Skirt: Weekenders (similar here in a floral or here in a sweater material)~~Cardigan: Weekenders (similar here)~~Top: Cable & Gauge (similar here)~~Shoes: Me Too (similar here)~~Necklace: (similar here)~~Earrings: (similar here)

Charlotte’s (70’s) Outfit: My mom had just been to a funeral too, so this was easy to recreate.

I guess it illustrates the point I was trying to portray in my last post, that as we get older, these events will become more and more common. Since it was the end of February, my mom piled on the boots and jacket. Of course, since it’s starting to warm up for most of us now, grabbing a pair of black pumps. like these, could be just as useful.

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This was all her own styling for this outfit (with the exception that she didn’t put on tights for these photos like she did for the actual funeral).

She wore her black & white, long sleeve, silk blouse under the blazer and small black earrings. I really like the fact that my mom wore a print shirt under her jacket. To me, it seems to break up the darkness of the overall outfit.

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As you’ve heard me say many times, my mom has quite the collection of brooches.

This art deco pin looks perfect on her blazer lapel. Not too ornate in my opinion, yet it ties in nicely with the print blouse.

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Style & Fashion for the Mature Woman.

Skirt: Norton McNaughton (similar here)~~Blazer: Liz Sport (similar here under $100)~~Top: Paul Alexander (similar here in a ikat print or here as a lace up blouse)~~Boots: Bandolino (similar here)~~Pin: (similar here now there’s an investment piece—I bet mom didn’t pay anything near that amount for hers!)~~Earrings: (similar here)

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I rounded up some darker dresses that would be not only appropriate for a funeral, but other occasions too! You know by now, how I love to make our clothing versatile!